I had thought a lot about my recent surgery in advance. Having a mastectomy is a scary thing, so asked a ton of questions of friends and my surgical team.
That said, even after all the preparation there were unexpected learnings after a mastectomy.
Here’s a shortlist of the most noteworthy things I didn’t know I needed to know (and didn’t see on any other preparation list):
Bumpy Roads. At discharge, my pain was manageable. However, the ride home was close to excruciating. Every bump or crack was jarring. If I were to do it again, I’d accept (or ask for) an additional dose of painkillers before leaving the hospital.
The Tupperware Lid. A friend of mine who has navigated breast cancer warned me- if you’re having reconstruction after a mastectomy, the tissue expander feels like having a tupperware lid in your chest. She was so right. The sensation is very weird and more bothersome for me than the actual surgical incision pain. And every now and then there’s a spasm so painful and ongoing that it takes my breath away.
Opening Things. After a mastectomy, it’s pretty common to “guard” that side (or sides) of your body and feel reticent to use the hand/arm. And you’d be surprised at how much you use your core or chest area when you exert effort. Therefore it’s nearly impossible to twist or open things. I had to have my sister or husband open all my post-surgery meds and pill bottles even though I can technically use both hands.
Flossing Woes. On the same note, I was terrified to lift my affected side arm in a way that would allow me to floss my teeth. I tried flossing with only my “good” side hand (hilarious), or with floss picks (useless), and then gave up for a few days/week until I felt more comfortable lifting and moving my arm. For a daily flosser, this was unexpectedly annoying!
Skin Irritation. While I found the mastectomy pain significant, it was mostly manageable. But I ended up with hives from the surgical drain and the EKG pads, which was SO uncomfortable. Zyrtec resolved this issue but I found I needed to wear my drains on the outside of clothing for the majority of each day, to not create additional warmth or pressure against my torso.
Amass the Button-Downs. And zip fronts. And shawls/wraps. You’ll be wearing things that open and close all the way in front, and are baggy enough to not put pressure on the surgical dressing. These larger looser clothing items also do a good job of camouflaging the drain and tubing if needed. You’ll need this for At least 3-4 weeks.
Other than these notes, I’ve found most other aspects of the mastectomy are explained or expected in advance of surgery.